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Persistence Needs To Be Applied With a Deliberate and Considered Approach To Your Personal Development
When it comes to your
own life and self development, it is necessary to eliminate the concept of
"failure" from your thinking.
Instead, treat any perception of
failure as a mere setback and as a learning opportunity experience.
Persistence is the willingness and resilience to
keep pressing on, even when you feel like your stores of commitment, determination,
optimism, and passion are all but dried up. Take comfort in the knowledge that
these internal wells of personal strength, courage and energy will never be totally empty, even when it might seem so.
7 Key Elements of Life Full of Adversity and Challenges
Many battles require physical, emotional and/or
spiritual strength to win. Some battles, however, also require persistence. As
Mahatma Gandhi said, "Strength does
not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will."
Having an indomitable will ─ an innate and
deep-seated capacity for persistence and perseverance ─ can make all the difference
in the world.
As Buddha said, "In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always
wins ─ not through strength but by perseverance."
As they are for the streams and rivers in this
world, persistence and perseverance can be the roots of your own victories over
confrontations, adversity and the obstacles, hurdles, problems, difficulties,
and obstructive people that you will come across on your personal journey
through this thing we call life.
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The Road to Personal Improvement Is Paved With Persistence and Resiliency
When times get tough
and your situation looks bleak, perhaps these words from the novelist Charlotte
Bronte will provide comfort and encouragement: "If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant; if we did not
sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcomed."
Being persistent and
remaining on the path you've chosen will habitually require a great deal of
patience, especially if you are having to deal with other people and all the
baggage, troubles, emotional strife, self doubt, pessimism, anger, anxiety, and
fear they carry with them. As the French poet Jean de la Fontaine said, "Patience and passage of time do more than
strength and fury."
7 Key Elements of Life
Rather than get angry
at problematic situations and people, or attempt to blow through either of these
with the power of your own convictions or actions, a judicial application of
patience and fortitude will usually go a long way in creating a resolution. As
the Irish proverb states, "For what
cannot be cured, patience is best."
Here are three quotes
by very different personalities that highlight the virtues of being patient and
the pitfalls of being impatient:
Wise and slow; they stumble that run fast. ~William
The twin killers of success are impatience and greed. ~Jim
Unreasonable haste is the direct road to error. ~Jean
perseverance also need to be applied with a deliberate and considered approach
to your own self development.
As David Fischman writes, "The true road to personal improvement is not
miraculous; it is slow and calls for a great deal of perseverance, but it is
indeed possible to progress along this road, and your effort will be amply
Please take 15 minutes and write down some ideas on how you can be more persistent and resilient in facing the challenges, hurdles and obstacles today in the seven areas of life depicted in the visual above.
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There is a great deal of self satisfaction gained when you get past the obstacles and hurdles people put between you and your desires.
Persistence is what
frequently separates the successful from those who are not. According to Dale
Carnegie, "Most of the important
things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying
when there seemed to be no hope at all." As the Japanese proverb goes,
"Beginning is easy ─ continuing is
Too many people are
ready and willing to discard their aims, desires, dreams and even purposes in
life by casting everything overboard as the first signs of difficulty or
misfortune manifest. They see obstacles and failures as defeats, or even worse
as misinterpreted "signs" that things are not meant to be the way
they had planned, hoped or dreamed.
As we mentioned in the previous blog post on Overcoming Adversity: adversity is a fact of life and it cannot be controlled or avoided.
Persistence is all
about overcoming adversity, and knowing that hardships, problems, stumbling
blocks, obstacles, and difficulties are simply ways of making you a better and
stronger person. After all, as the old English proverb states, "A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner."
The great Roman poet
Horace, who lived just before the time of Christ, identified this
characteristic of persistence, writing, "Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous
circumstances, would have lain dormant."
And in more modern
times, Michael Jordan had this to say about dealing with problems encountered:
"If you are trying to achieve, there
will be roadblocks. I've had them, everybody has had them. But obstacles don't
have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around and give up. Find
out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it."
There is a great deal
of satisfaction to be gained from knowing that you have gotten past, through,
around, over, or under the obstacles that life and other people put between you
and your desires.
Additionally, a great
deal of self confidence is to be gained by overcoming hardships and defeating
adversaries who get in your way. As Harry Browne wrote, "When you know that you're capable of dealing
with whatever comes, you have the only security the world has to offer."
That security is your own heightened self confidence. And when it comes to facing adversity, that is the best security to have.
Please take 10 minutes now and write down a list of the challenges and problems you face, and what steps you can take to help you become more persistence and resilient in handling these.
Adversity is a fact of
life. It cannot be controlled or avoided.
What we can control is how we react
and respond to adversity.
Adversity, of course,
can be a powerful positive in creating personal growth and development. As motivational author Mike
there is ease and simplicity in your life, it is because earlier you learned a
there is resistance and obstacles in your life, it is because there is even
more to learn.
learning more is pretty much the main reason everyone is still here.
Life is so full of unwanted and unexpected twists and turns, ups and downs, that it often seems like we spend the majority of our time reacting and trying to prevent or manage these things. However, you cannot manage the unexpected, so the best strategy is to be prepared to handle these situations as they arise with confidence in our own abilities and perseverance. This is what separates the ones who overcome adversity with those who allow others and circumstances control their fate.
The latter live their lives defensively, trying to prevent bad things from happening to them and their loved ones. The smarter strategy is to live life knowing that you can overcome the bad things and life's little hurdles that will eventually happen.
The key to overcome
adversity is persistence.
dedication. Persistence is the determination to see something through to the
end, not quitting when obstacles appear or the going gets rough. U.S. President
Calvin Coolidge wrote in a letter that "Persistence and Determination are omnipotent." His thinking
was not far removed from Benjamin Franklin's advice that "Energy and persistence conquer all things."
Adds W. J. Davison,
"The life that conquers is the life
that moves with a steady resolution and persistence toward a predetermined
goal. Those who succeed are those who have thoroughly learned the immense
importance of plan in life, and the tragic brevity of time."
We often read of
successful people who faced times and situations where they wanted to give up,
chuck it all in and move onto something else. Yet something kept them going ─ a
persistence driven by either an internal flame of commitment or an external source
Those who accomplish
their goals understand that, in the words of William Arthur Ward, "Impossibilities crumble in the crucible of
persistence; difficulties disappear under the power of persistence."
Take some time this weekend to think of ways to book your personal resistance and persistence for the hurdles and challenges you face. We will have some more thoughts and tips on overcoming adversity this weekend, so please return to the Project You Life Blog over the next few days.
For most people there are four main categories of
relationships ── friends, lovers, family, and co-workers or those they partner
with in commercial endeavors.
All of these relationships have one quality in
A meaningful and mutually satisfying relationship is not based
on the length of the time spent together; but rather on the foundation built
together by all parties involved.
As we will touch upon your relationships with
lovers, family and co-workers in subsequent chapters, let us focus for now on
the relationships with friends.
Friends stick with you through thick and thin –
and you stick with them when they go through troubles and hard times. Friends
respect the decisions of each other, even when they violently disagree with
their choices. Most important, friends can be openly critical of each other
without this impacting their friendships.
Here’s a good, detailed description of authentic friendship
from author Stephen E. Ambrose in his novel Comrades: Brothers, Fathers, Heroes, Sons, Pals:
Friendship is different
from all other relationships. Unlike acquaintanceship, it is based on
love. Unlike lovers and married couples, it is free of jealousy. Unlike
children and parents, it knows neither criticism nor resentment.
Friendship has no status in law. Business partnerships are based on a
contract. So is marriage. Parents are bound by the law, as are
children. But friendship is freely entered into, freely given, freely
exercised. Friends never cheat each other, or take advantage, or
lie. Friends do not spy on one another, yet they have no secrets.
Friends glory in each other's successes and are downcast by the failures.
Friends minister to each other, nurse each other. Friends give to each other,
worry about each other, stand always ready to help. Perfect friendship is
rarely achieved, but at its height, is an ecstasy.
The bonds of true friendship occur when there are
no minute traces of jealousy between the parties in the relationship. When you
can feel totally proud, happy and supportive of your friend’s success without
feeling a single pang of jealousy or bitterness, that is when you will know
true friendship abounds.
These words of advice from motivational speaker Tom Hopkins certainly ring true, “Surround yourself with people most like the
person you want to become. Stay away from anyone who can or will bring you
As Buddha pointed
out, “An insincere and evil friend is
more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an
evil friend will wound your mind.”
In order to attract good
friends you need to be a good friend first to others and to yourself. You
attract what you become and what you are. As English churchman and historian
Thomas Fuller said, “Be a friend to
thyself, and others will be so too.”
At the same time, you want to
be the kind of friend who sticks by others when the going gets rough. And you
want the same in others who befriend you. Or, in the words of Oprah Winfrey, “Lots of people want to ride with you in the
limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo
precious, and should be treated with care. As writer and thinker Randolph S.
Bourne wrote, “Good friendships are
fragile things and require as much care as any other fragile and precious
had a simple and straight-forward philosophical approach to friendship, which
he espoused in his classic book Poor
Be civil to all;
sociable to many;
familiar with few;
friend to one;
enemy to none.