Friday, September 2, 2016

Handling Grief and Loss

Personal Grieving is a Process Which You Can Manage and Handle 

Loss is intrinsic in life. Accept that it will repeatedly happen to you throughout your life, in one form or another. There is no sense in trying to deny or avoid losses.
The key thing is not to let the natural grief you feel after a significant loss turn into despair, gloom, depression, or hopelessness. You do not so much overcome grief as you learn how to manage and handle it.
There is no doubt that the debilitating effects of grief, pain and sorrow can be tremendous, especially in the aftermath of a major loss such as:
·         death of a loved one, family member or close friend
·         divorce
·         losing one's job or business
·         ending of a meaningful relationship
·         major illnesses
·         an incapacitating accident
·         major property loss due to accident, storm damage or a natural disaster
·         loss of bodily functions or mental capacity in self or a loved one
The key here is to remember that events have no meaning. Any meaning given to an event (good or bad) is simply the meaning that you give to it. So whether an event is tragic or character building, sad or happy, helpful or restraining is solely dependent upon the meaning that you assign it.
The silver lining in these dark clouds of the human experience is that billions of others before you have suffered big loss grief and survived to live meaningful lives. Which simply means that so can you. 
Here are four methods for doing so is: 
 1) Be prepared to handle disaster or a big loss grief by acknowledging that extremely bad things and losses will be encountered at some point in your life. Acknowledge and fully understand that even the worst imaginable disasters or losses are not likely to kill you. 
2)  Identify you strengths and what fuels your resilience in tough situations. Know in advance how to trigger those internal stores and how to replenish them. 
3) Allow yourself to grieve and embrace the feelings of bereavement. Attempting to repress natural feelings, even for a short period, will often make you feel worse. There is little advantage to be found trying to "tough it out" or "put on a strong face for others" when you are hurting inside. 
4)  Cry if you need to. Crying is a natural body reaction that helps to eliminate the harmful toxins and stress hormones created by grief and sorrow. This applies equally to men as to women. Psychologists and grief counselors will be the first to tell you that crying is a vital aspect of tacking and meeting your grief head-on and speeding up your healing process. 
We will give you four more methods in the next blog post.
Grieving is a process, one that can be shortened and its impact lessened through careful and conscientious management. 
Without proper management, however, excessive grief can cause feelings of "I cannot handle any more" or "I cannot cope with this." When those feelings ring harsh and true, and are not temporary bursts of despair, it is best to seek professional help. 
As we wrote above, the key thing is not to let the natural grief you feel after a significant loss turn into despair, gloom, depression, or hopelessness. You do not so much overcome grief as you learn how to manage and handle it.

This article is partially excerpted from our top-ranked personal development book Project You: Living A Determined Life, which is also available in Kindle and paperback formats at Amazon. 

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