Attitude and "Self Talk" Impact Self Esteem and Self Worth
We quoted
singer Pearl Bailey at the end of the previous post on self-esteem with her
very apt words: "No
one can figure out your worth but you."
You cannot accomplish much without a high level of self esteem. And you certainly cannot expect to achieve any level of authentic success with self esteem.
Your "self talk" plays a critical role in how you perceive your self worth. That's the good news, and the bad news.
By focusing on positive messages, and controlling the quantity of negative thoughts circulating in your brain, you can boost your sense of self worth and your level of self esteem.
On the
other hand, if you do not deem worth in yourself, or in your ideas and actions,
then you will be placing your own limitations on yourself, as well as in your ideas and actions.
As Richard
Bach, author of Jonathan
Livingston Seagull and
several other outstanding books, wrote, "Argue
for your limitations and sure enough they're yours." Similarly Denis Waitley chimed in with, "The greatest limitations you will ever face will be those
you place on yourself."
Fear is a
major conduit of self-limiting beliefs. You need to develop the skill of
understanding and controlling your fears, to ensure you do not act or react out
of fear. Bertrand Russell, a noted philosopher, wrote: "Neither a
man nor a crowd nor a nation can be trusted to act humanely or to think sanely
under the influence of a great fear."
David
Patchell-Evans, an author and Canadian fitness expert, wrote the following in
relation to physical exercise programs, but his message actually has broader
connotations for life in general:
Most of the limitations you
think you have are the ones you have decided on. They are often entirely
self-imposed.
You might think "I
can't do this, I can't do that, I would never do that, my parents could never
do that, I never played baseball, I never climbed a mountain, I never, never,
never."
It's the old broken record
in your head. Throw out that negative thinking right now! Learn to play a
positive message in your head because it's all about attitude.
Yes, throw out all your negative thinking. Right now! Only allow
positive messages into your head, particularly from your own "self
talk".
Remember, you cannot expect to accomplish much without a high
level of self esteem.
The road to Authentic Success requires an attitude of positive
self esteem and truly knowing your own self worth.
If you want some help in this area, pick up a copy of Project You: Words of Wisdom, which combines motivational
messages and quotations from leading thinkers and individuals across the ages
with practical tips, techniques, tools, and proven steps to help readers embark
on a journey of continuous improvement in both self esteem and self
worth.
This article is partially excerpted from the book ProjectYou: Living A Determined Life, which is
available in paperback and eBook formats at Amazon.
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